Dear Friends,
Here in the U.S., today is a national holiday -- the 4th of July or Independence
Day. On this day, we celebrate our congress' final adoption of our Declaration
of Independence. The men who wrote this document and the men and women who
fought in our Revolutionary War risked nearly everything for freedom.
This month's insight takes a different look at freedom – the liberation we
experience when we free ourselves from the thoughts, beliefs and ideas that trap
us. Let's declare – for all of us across the globe - today a day of independence
from these mental limits!
My best to you!
Claudette
Belief Redux
I recently found myself on my website rereading some of my
articles. Why? I needed advice. That's how desperate I was; I experiencing a
peculiar kind of loss – the loss of beliefs that I perceived to be so rock solid
that I hardly paid much attention to them anymore. I felt like the bottom had
dropped out on my beliefs about financial abundance. It seemed like one day I
was happily attracting and receiving money into my life and the next day I was
worried, the energy around my money was tight, and my numbers were lower than
they had had been in months.
What the heck was going on? Upon reflection and with help
from my own coach (yes, coaches uses coaches too), I recognized three issues had
triggered this disconnect. First, I had taken on a new project that will take
12-18 months to bear financial fruit, yet needs to be completed in the next six
months. This project, while absolutely the right course of action for me, is
also taking time that, quite frankly, I just don't have. I was caught in a
mental quagmire: Do I need to earn less money in order to write the project?
With that thinking, I had put myself smack dab in the
middle of the infamous "trade off" trap, which dictates that, "to get something
you want, you must give up something else that you want." No fun! Plus, thinking
this way says I don't believe the universe is fully abundant, and that I'm not
able to create money in all sorts of unexpected ways.
The second issue was an old belief that goes something
like, "I must do everything myself, I must handle everything myself and the buck
stops with me." As a business owner and single mother, there's some truth to
this belief, and yet I had stepped into it far too fully. I had negated the fact
that help is always available, we can't do everything ourselves (yes, sometimes
I think I'm Superwoman) and the universe, when asked, is available to send ease
and grace into our lives.
Third, I recognized that a relationship in my life was
negatively affecting my self-confidence. I had allowed a relationship's
dynamics to undermine my self-esteem. I was settling for less than what I wanted
and deserved, which is always a bad idea. So I cleaned up my part of the
relationship: asked for what I wanted and emotionally disconnected my
self-esteem from the result.
Don't get me wrong – it took several weeks of soul
searching, discussions and coaching to ferret out these gems. But like most
learning, they were worth the effort.
What did I learn?
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When we feel disconnected from a previously held belief, start struggling in
an area we don't usually struggle in, or notice a situation sliding
sideways, pay attention. There's tweaking to be done.
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Notice what's changed in your life. New career situation? Change
in a relationship? Shift in social, emotional or physical status? Any
significant change in your life can cause your beliefs to shift, usually for the
better once the dust settles.
- Hone on what's making you feel bad: What's making you feel
drained, tight or less enthusiastic? Those may be places to examine. Once you've
soul searched, notice the beliefs you're carrying that seem to zap your energy.
Beliefs that work for us make us feel great, empowered and positive. If you're
feeling less than great, empowered or positive, it's time to pull out your
magnifying glass for a closer look at what's not working for you.
So the next time you have a crisis of belief, look below
the surface, ask yourself the tough questions and listen to the answers.
Remember, when things stop working in your life, it's a sign that opportunity is
right around the corner. Every crisis of faith brings with it tremendous
opportunities for growth, renewal and change for the better. Ask yourself the
age old questions: What do I need to see? And what's here for me to learn?
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Useful Resources
- Quote by Kihlal Gibran: One of my clients passed this on to me, and
I love it:
"And what is it to work with love?
It is to weave the cloth with threads drawn from your own heart, even as if
your beloved were to wear that cloth.
It is to build a house with affection, even as if your beloved were to dwell
in that house.
It is to sow the seeds with tenderness and reap the harvest with joy, even
as if your beloved were to eat the fruit.
It is to charge all things you fashion with a breath of your own spirit.
And to know that all the blessed dead are standing about you watching.
Work is love made visible."
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- Quote by David Whyte: I couldn't resist
sharing this quote with you!
"You must learn one thing.
The world was made to be free in.
Give up all other worlds
Except the one to which you belong."
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