Insights for the Savvy
Issue #32
September 2, 2005
By Claudette Rowley
MetaVoice Coaching & Consulting
Insights for the Savvy offers tools and tips for
identifying your true purpose and calling life and mobilizing the
courage and resources to pursue it.
In This Issue...
I don’t know about you, but for me September
is synonymous with action. I have a strong urge to act – to
move projects and ideas forward into fruition. As the lazy days
of summer wind down and school starts again, I’m ready to
take action. However, this fall, the catalyst for my urge to act
was the recognition that I had put myself in a “box”
of my own design. This month’s insight describes how to “bust
out of your box”. Enjoy!
My best to you for a great month!
Claudette
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Insight of the Month Bust
Out of Your Box
“Turning points announce themselves through
a variety of vague symptoms: deep restlessness, a yearning with
no name, inexplicable boredom, the feeling of being stuck.”
- Gloria Karpinski
Do you
- feel restless, agitated and/or bored?
- notice you have developed a serious case of the “blahs”?
- experience tremendous resistance to doing what you need to do?
- have thoughts such as “What’s the point?”
If you answered YES to two or more of these questions,
your box may be too small. It’s time to bust out! (For all
of you who are thinking “What is she talking about?”
– here’s the explanation.)
Your box is a metaphor for the beliefs, rules and
circumstances (aka BRCs) in your life that no longer work for you.
You carry BRCs around despite that fact that they no longer serve
your growth and development, and that it’s in your best interest
to discard them. For instance, my client Joanie was afraid to join
a gym (even though she desperately wanted to) because she was concerned
that she’d only use it for a month or so. If that happened,
she’d feel like a failure and foolish in front of her friends
and family. After reflecting, she recognized that she was hauling
around an outmoded belief that it actually mattered how others perceived
her decisions about whether work out.
Over time, these BRC’s accumulate around us,
brick by brick, walling us off from the awareness of what we want
as well as the
ability to act on what we want. I usually know that I’m in
my box when I can’t remember the last time that I had fun,
or when someone asks what I do for fun, and my response is “Huh?”
or something along those lines. As an entrepreneur and a mother,
I’m busy and I work hard. It’s easy to get trapped in
my box of BRCs – to move from one responsibility to next without
considering what’s best for me. And sometimes having fun is
best gift I could give myself.
Ways to bust out of your box:
- Ask yourself, “What have I outgrown?”
- Eliminate the thought that you need to feel better before
taking action. For example, it’s a common belief that
feeling fear indicates that you shouldn’t take action.
Actually, the reverse is true. Most of the time, the only way
to decrease fear
is to do what you need to do.
- Shift your perspective. Do one thing differently. This could
be as simple as wearing purple socks if you usually wear black.
It could be thinking, “Today, the glass is half full.”
- Consider what you might be avoiding in your life and ask
yourself, “Why?” Make sure you answer that one honestly.
Identifying the need to “bust out of your box”
is a wake up call, a warning that either your comfort zone has gotten
too narrow or that you need to listen to yourself. The next time
you feel restless or bored, develop a case of the “blahs”
or feel resistance, capitalize on this opportunity to take a closer
look at your beliefs, rules and circumstances. It might be time
to shake ‘em up.
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Now It's Your Turn
What do you perceive to be the three biggest obstacles
in your life? Take to few minutes to reflect on each one, and ask
yourself these questions:
- What’s this obstacle here to teach me?
- What’s the gift in it?
Different Voices
“It is not good enough to have a good mind.
The main thing is to use it well.”
- Rene Descartes
“What is truth? A difficult question; but I
have solved it for myself by saying that it is what the voice within
tells you.”
- Mahatma Gandhi
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Insights for the Savvy is written and produced by Claudette Rowley.
If you have questions or comments, please send them to info@metavoice.org.
To find out more about Claudette and her coaching services,
visit http://www.metavoice.org or call 781.676.5633.
Copyright 2002-2004, Claudette Rowley. All Rights Reserved.
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